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040-2023-08-20-Trader-Round-Up-Sunday-with-Riz-Women-in-trading-losses-and-mental health-ICT-only

Version 1.1 by Drunk Monkey on 2023-09-04 08:45

Outline

00:01 - Women in trading losing streaks.

- Women in trading, losing streaks, mental health and management.
- The best student is a woman while teaching and training her, one of the things that was quickly apparent is when she would make a mistake, she was never judgmental of herself.
- His best student is his best student. She knows that she has models, not one model, but that one of them will speak to her every trading session.
- His best students are hard on themselves.

04:57 - How to defeat yourself even further.

- Do some laps if you don't defeat yourself even further when you make a mistake. If you fail a funded account challenge or blow an account, that's not something to be upset about every single football team.
- You're doing the same thing by equating the next trading day to the next trade.
- The first thing a woman does when she gets pregnant, and what a man does when he gets pregnant.
- The importance of taking personal responsibility for personal growth.

09:27 - How men struggle psychologically more than women.

- Men struggle psychologically more than women, because they are one-sided. Women are multi-functioning multitaskers. They can do things that men are not.
- Trading model, swinging an axe, mom is a model.
- It takes a great deal of personal responsibility to go into this industry, and you have to be personally responsible and organized.
- The easiest solution to losing trades is understanding your model.

14:13 - How many times have you seen a silver bullet form?

- How many times a silver bullet form between 10 o'clock and 11 o' clock is seen, and why it is impossible to get emotional about it.
- Three setups per day.
- If you over-leveraged and placed more emphasis on the outcome of that singular trade, you will pass the challenge when you have that small little obstacle and you want to do more than necessary to overcome it.
- The more you try to avoid taking a loss, the more likely you will have them.

18:47 - How to turn a loss into a comeback story.

- In that one hour, you are looking for one, and if you miss it or you did it wrong, don't go back in and try again.
- John wick and the ladies.
- Why would you want to push at that moment where you are now highly sensitive to the fact that you have taken a paper cut, and that's exactly what it should be, not 10% of your account, not well.
- Women want to be coddled. Men want to make preparations.
- Fostering poor habits is inviting difficulty in trading when you think like that, and what will happen over time trading like that.
- The whole purpose of even studying certain things, whether it be by me or someone else, is to follow the model.

26:34 - The importance of following a business model.

- Traders have been around since the 1900s, so it is important to be able to weather losing streaks and know that it doesn't mean that the model is broken.
- Mental health as a trader needs to be guarded. No negative thoughts, no second guessing, no doubting.
- Traders want to see if they can get a rise out of you. They own you for that moment. You want to be guarding your mental health.
- Trading one micro, not many micro, what is really risking if you risk five handles to make $525 bucks.

31:48 - Never let your loss be more than 250 bucks.

- Never let your loss be more than 250 dollars, because it is easy for you to recoup that if you're going to trade another session with half the leverage.
- Mental health is rewarded by filing a model that you've investigated and tested back tested collected data on your management of losing trades.
- Less than 5% of women traders do it like that and are ill-equipped to be successful, not being responsible with the risk.
- The female trader system.

36:46 - Women are better risk managers.

- Women are historically better risk managers than men in the trading community, and the best risk managers in the community are women.
- Having an affair makes a man a piece of shit.
- The lives of many people change when they get involved in trading, and the results are determined by the amount of organization adherence to impeccable risk management.
- Having a cookie cutter.

41:16 - Embracing losing trades and embracing failure.

- Luck will repeat and it will be exponential in delivery and results, but it will not happen because of luck.
- Mental health needs to be focused on the model.
- You invite someone that doesn't give a shit about you to give their two cents. They don't have a trade and they have no idea they're going to be doing that now.
- You're taking investment advice from a temp who doesn't even have a full-time position yet.
- Honey bees are pretty good together. They collect honey and produce honey, but there's a bee that comes in and can do a lot of damage.
- You have to guard your mental health.

Transcription

1 00:00:01,230 --> 00:00:09,180 ICT: Can you hear me? Yes, sir. I was not trying to interrupt you, I was gonna let you finish it, I'm gonna try to do the request. So whatever you were saying
2 00:00:09,180 --> 00:00:22,530 if you could finish that, and then I'd like to have a couple minutes with you off the good. Absolutely. And ironically, I asked, I actually did just so I,
3 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:33,630 I've enjoyed again, today listening to everybody. And since you made a change in the title, I want to kind of like touch on all three of those things. Women in
4 00:00:33,630 --> 00:00:48,150 trading, losing and or losing streaks, and the mental health and the management thereof. What most people don't realize is, you know, I have like a locker room
5 00:00:48,150 --> 00:00:59,340 of gentlemen that want to get out here and like, prove to the world that they themselves, and what they have learned is an amazing new skill set. And it is,
6 00:01:00,300 --> 00:01:11,790 and the quiet females, that actually better traders in my fold. They're not interested in doing any of that. Now, I'm not trying to say that the ladies in
7 00:01:11,790 --> 00:01:23,250 this community that are outspoken, which I'm so impressed with, I love the candor, I love the ability for them to articulate and communicate their place.
8 00:01:23,940 --> 00:01:32,640 Okay, they're not in a position where they're asking to be a part of this community, a part of this industry, they're just stepping in, just like a strong
9 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:49,320 woman would. And my better students. My best student is a woman. While teaching and training her, one of the things that was quickly apparent is when she would
10 00:01:49,320 --> 00:02:02,310 make a mistake. She was never, ever talking to me in a turn where she was very judgmental of herself. She would ask me, this is, this is what I did. What
11 00:02:02,310 --> 00:02:15,300 should I be observing in this? And how should I think about it? And how do I go forwards, I don't repeat that. The choice of words, the terms that she used to
12 00:02:16,260 --> 00:02:28,350 nail down the core issue, was never judgmental. It was never self reflecting in a negative tone. She was open always, for the reinforcement from me as her
13 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:40,680 educator. And she trusted the fact that what I was going to tell her was sufficient. In all of the time as an educator, even back in the 90s, when I
14 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:50,820 wasn't really equipped to be teaching, I was teaching ahead of schedule. But even then, the gentlemen that I have trained, whether they're the successful
15 00:02:50,820 --> 00:03:00,390 ones that you've seen recently, or the ones that are quiet and haven't really found themselves yet. They had this characteristic that repeats among all of
16 00:03:00,390 --> 00:03:13,860 them. They take every minor setback as a major defeat, you would think that these guys have trained for the NFL Super Bowl, okay. They've worked very, very
17 00:03:13,860 --> 00:03:24,330 hard. And it's all on the line. Now. They got to get this trophy. This is it. This is the time this is the trading opportunity this week coming. Selling you
18 00:03:24,330 --> 00:03:34,590 gentlemen are thinking that's exactly what it's going to be like for you. And the ladies in my fold, my best student. She doesn't think like that. She knows
19 00:03:34,590 --> 00:03:46,050 that she has models, not one model, she has models. She knows that one of them will speak to her every single trading session. How did she get to that point
20 00:03:46,050 --> 00:04:00,780 where she can trust? Not only that it will repeat. But she doesn't fear losing. She has losing trades, very few of them. But why is she confident because she's
21 00:04:00,780 --> 00:04:13,830 done a lot of work before making money. She's kept herself away from judgmental criticism from everyone else while she was very influenced by the opinions of
22 00:04:13,830 --> 00:04:25,110 others in our community, my community, the community that was behind a paywall. She didn't want it and she still doesn't talk. She doesn't make herself known.
23 00:04:26,790 --> 00:04:38,220 She's never brought herself out in a position where she can be judged. Apart from my criticism about what is she did, either incorrectly or correctly. And
24 00:04:38,220 --> 00:04:52,290 I've been very careful to guard that responsibility that she's given me and trust the gentleman they want to be hard on themselves because they think it's
25 00:04:52,290 --> 00:05:03,630 like high school football and a coach needs to put it in her ass and say, Hey, you screwed it up. Do some laps. No If you don't defeat yourself even further,
26 00:05:03,930 --> 00:05:13,680 when you make a mistake, if you fail a funded account challenge if you blow an account, and you've been doing that very long, that's not something to be upset
27 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:23,580 about. Every single football team, and it kind of sounds weird to be talking about this, because I'm not a football fan. But I'm trying to speak in terms
28 00:05:23,580 --> 00:05:37,020 where the gentleman in here, they can, they can draw a parallel to this, it kind of makes it more palatable. But you're doing the same thing, by equating the
29 00:05:37,020 --> 00:05:50,280 next trading day, the next trade, or this future coming week, as it's the be all end all. It's the be all end all that defines whether you are successful or not
30 00:05:50,280 --> 00:06:00,570 successful. And then when you are met with short term adversity, getting stopped out, getting chopped up on a day where you're not really fully equipped. You're
31 00:06:00,570 --> 00:06:08,100 not following your model. You're chasing price, you're getting impulsive about oh, well, you know, this doesn't really look like anything I've ever really
32 00:06:08,550 --> 00:06:15,750 trained to take a trade on. But yeah, I got a gut feeling, it's probably gonna go up here. That's gonna make it real easy to strip it down. And this is going
33 00:06:15,750 --> 00:06:26,670 to go for the boss or the coterie I'll just do that. Why overthink, it may make it complicated. And then you lose your ass. And then you'll want to communicate
34 00:06:26,670 --> 00:06:35,010 to me either by a direct message on trading view, or you'll send me an email that I'll never get to. Or you'll send something that is very judgmental, and
35 00:06:35,010 --> 00:06:53,460 yourself in a tweet. And the ladies don't do that. They don't do that. They're wired differently. Because they know they're more emotional, and more sensitive.
36 00:06:54,720 --> 00:07:04,740 And that's not a bad thing. It's not a weakness. That's a strength. Men. And not I was this way, too, when I was younger, when I lost, and when I blew an
37 00:07:04,740 --> 00:07:14,730 account. It just pissed me off. That's okay. I'm pissed off. I'm mad. I'm gonna go out there and war against it even harder. Instead of going back to what was I
38 00:07:14,730 --> 00:07:23,760 trying to trade? Am I trading something that's viable? That's going to repeat? Because if it's not there, I'm doing something that's not going to succeed at
39 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:33,810 all? Is it sound logic to do what I'm doing? Think about when a woman gets pregnant. I've used this analogy before, but I know some people are in here, the
40 00:07:33,810 --> 00:07:44,790 first time hearing this. When your relationship with someone and you decide to either get pregnant or you happen to find yourself pregnant. And as a couple,
41 00:07:45,930 --> 00:07:55,380 the guy usually is like, Man, am I really ready for this? He puts it on himself. He's not giving birth, he's not carrying the baby. But all of a sudden he's
42 00:07:55,380 --> 00:08:03,900 thinking inwardly. Am I ready for this? I'm going to have to handle this. And what's the first thing the woman's doing? She's nesting. We gotta get the house
43 00:08:03,900 --> 00:08:12,840 ready. Bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, bah. Like, what the hell does happen? Who are you? Where did you come from? And everything is urgent about making sure things
44 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:27,120 are ready. We have to prepare. What is she doing? What is she doing? She's following a model. The focus is on the model, not inwardly punishing themselves
45 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:40,830 like the male does through fear judging him. Am I gonna be a good father? Am I really ready for this in some men, sadly, are weak, and they run away. They
46 00:08:40,830 --> 00:08:52,230 can't stick to the model. They can't stick to it. That's weakness. The female has got all the harder hard work the job the task of letting a human being grow
47 00:08:52,230 --> 00:09:02,550 inside of her getting enough rest managing the stress so that way she can do what's necessary for her body to grow this individual that will be birth nine
48 00:09:02,550 --> 00:09:16,230 months later. But the male thinks about things in terms of man, what am I gonna be able to do? What am I going to have to deal with? In a weak minded men, runs,
49 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:28,080 they run. They can't they can't handle they can't stick to the task of following the model. The female understands the personal responsibility here. They're a
50 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:39,750 team player, they're the birthing parent. The husband can only do so much the work is gonna be done predominantly by the the female because they're wired like
51 00:09:39,750 --> 00:09:54,420 they the trading is not it's not surprising to see how men struggle, egotistically psychologically more than a female because if you get down to the
52 00:09:54,420 --> 00:09:59,280 brass tacks, men are very, very one sided.
53 00:10:01,319 --> 00:10:12,929 Women are multi functioning multitaskers they can do things that men just aren't. But you give a man a task of slapping the shit out of somebody that has
54 00:10:12,959 --> 00:10:25,259 offended him or his woman or endanger them. Now he's in his element. Now he's formidable, you do not want to stand in front of that guy. He's not going to
55 00:10:25,259 --> 00:10:39,869 second guess anything. I have a sledgehammer in my hand. I'm about to mow you down. You are now in caveman mode. A female student, I've learned that, when I
56 00:10:39,869 --> 00:10:49,049 have a new student comes in, they're female. They're very organized. They're very organized. They're so highly organized. It's impressive. The guys are like,
57 00:10:49,319 --> 00:10:57,599 you know, just give me give me my sledgehammer. Just give me go ahead and just start breaking shit up. And the only thing that happens is, they have discovered
58 00:10:57,599 --> 00:11:12,029 that they're not equipped. We're organized the fall of the model. swinging an axe, it sounds simple, right? Go to pick up an axe, hit that piece of tree. But
59 00:11:12,059 --> 00:11:21,329 a proper procedure would be hold the axe like this, don't swing it like that. wear eye protection. Make sure there's no one around you when you swing it. So
60 00:11:21,329 --> 00:11:31,439 we don't hurt anybody. There's a trading model in that. Now, usually, it's the mom that sees the dad out there swinging the friggin axe, right next to their
61 00:11:31,439 --> 00:11:41,159 son who's got headphones on looking at his phone, he's walking in the striking distance of that axe. And she's in there thinking, this sumbitch ain't watching
62 00:11:41,159 --> 00:11:51,269 what he's doing. He found a model. He looked at this swinging an axe, what is she doing, she's following the model, parenting. It takes a great deal of
63 00:11:51,269 --> 00:12:01,439 personal responsibility to go into this industry, number one, and you have to be personally responsible and organized and also prepare for adversities, you have
64 00:12:01,439 --> 00:12:09,449 to prepare for it. And when when a woman gets pregnant, she understands there's gonna be a whole lot of responsibility and changes and they have to do things
65 00:12:09,449 --> 00:12:23,129 while they can before the baby comes. Your model is much much like that. And you have to have time getting prepared for that model. Getting your house ready for
66 00:12:23,129 --> 00:12:36,809 it. And when if you rush out there and try to do things that you're not equipped to do. Rushing, trying to make money with something you have not convinced
67 00:12:36,809 --> 00:12:47,729 yourself that this model repeats. losing streaks are going to happen to everybody. If you have two losing trades before another winning trade, you just
68 00:12:47,729 --> 00:12:58,319 had a losing streak. Don't call it anything other than that, because it's exactly what it was. Yes, you had another win after that. You had a loss. But
69 00:12:58,319 --> 00:13:07,109 you've had two consecutive losing trades, you just suffered a losing streak. There's nothing to be ashamed about. That's normal. It's extremely normal in the
70 00:13:07,109 --> 00:13:17,069 beginning. But some of you think that that's a knock against your ability to eventually be successful at this or that somehow that that's a weakness, we got
71 00:13:17,069 --> 00:13:28,229 to prove that we can have that we can't lose money, losing a little bit of money. And I just showed this on Friday. Knowing where you do not have the
72 00:13:28,229 --> 00:13:42,869 advantage, letting a loss do its job. limit how much exposure you have that at risk. Determine by following a model. I have multiple models, you're going to
73 00:13:42,869 --> 00:13:51,239 have eventually more than one model to but in the beginning, it's unrealistic for you to have multiple models that you haven't even done the work to learn how
74 00:13:51,239 --> 00:14:06,179 to do one well. All of you are capable of doing this. Some of you are incapable of allowing yourself to develop properly and losing trades and how you deal with
75 00:14:06,179 --> 00:14:16,619 losing trades or losing streaks. The easiest solution to that is understanding your model. How many times have you seen a silver bullet form? Between 10
76 00:14:16,619 --> 00:14:28,289 o'clock and 11? o'clock? A lot right? How many times if you tried to trade it incorrectly and had a loss, whether it be demo paper tape reading or a Live
77 00:14:28,289 --> 00:14:38,699 account were funded account challenge and you lost? And then immediately I guarantee you're thinking, oh no. I see these wrong, man. He said it was never
78 00:14:38,699 --> 00:14:46,949 going to change. They're never gonna change the algorithm. Here it is. It's proof. I lost them straight did something wrong? You felt like I didn't. Why did
79 00:14:46,949 --> 00:14:56,759 you feel that way? Because you haven't been doing enough of the back tests and the trust it's there all the time. But you don't have the skill set and the
80 00:14:56,759 --> 00:15:07,109 experience to see the right one the right Wrong liquidity. There's days where the economic counter in the market structure implies that even though there's a
81 00:15:07,109 --> 00:15:12,689 high degree of probability, there's going to be a silver bullet between 10 o'clock and 11 o'clock, New York local time, two o'clock to three o'clock, New
82 00:15:12,689 --> 00:15:22,949 York local time, and three o'clock in the morning to four o'clock near political time. There's three setups per day, even though it's likely, the invitation is
83 00:15:22,949 --> 00:15:32,429 there for it to manifest itself in the price delivery does not imply or a need need for you to be in there expecting it to happen for you. That's a Gambler's
84 00:15:32,429 --> 00:15:51,839 mindset. Knowing that this will repeat, knowing that the model is sound, the logic is based on real fundamental delivery of price. It's going to happen. You
85 00:15:51,839 --> 00:16:03,809 will not you should not. And you cannot get emotional about that loss. It's impossible. It's literally impossible if you've done the work of back testing.
86 00:16:03,959 --> 00:16:13,769 And you've seen how many times it's done it. How many times you would have seen it and potentially failed. But yet, the next day or next trading session, it
87 00:16:13,769 --> 00:16:23,639 materializes. And there it is. But if you over leveraged, and you placed more emphasis on the outcome of that singular trade, because you just got $100 more
88 00:16:23,639 --> 00:16:38,069 you can get to that fund that account, you'll pass your challenge when you have that small, little obstacle, and you want to do more than necessary to overcome
89 00:16:38,069 --> 00:16:51,599 it. So that way you can get to some feet, some plateau, a funded account. And then you lose it. And you feel like I should have never done that. Let me hurry
90 00:16:51,599 --> 00:17:02,999 up and fix it. And you're jumping in, when there's no model there to be entering on. You're impulsively reacting to what price is doing right now after you've
91 00:17:02,999 --> 00:17:11,819 taken a loss, whether it being squeezed out of the marketplace, or actually getting a hard stop hit. At that moment, your brain is going to revert back to
92 00:17:11,819 --> 00:17:24,599 what you know. What have you been trained to observe in price? If you've done no back testing, you've collected no journals of these things occurring and growing
93 00:17:24,629 --> 00:17:39,689 comfortable with sometimes you might get it wrong. The model is not incorrect you are when I mess it up, I did it wrong. But when you have a loss, you should
94 00:17:39,689 --> 00:17:49,679 not go and start imagining the the end of the world like you have to hurry and fix this. Lord forbid you go home with a negative drawdown. Lord forbid that
95 00:17:49,679 --> 00:17:59,789 can't happen. I mean, we're supposed to be profitable every day. We're supposed to be profitable, every trade. That's not practical. You're learning how to do
96 00:17:59,789 --> 00:18:07,859 this. In the beginning, you gotta give yourself permission to hey, I'm going to make mistakes. And you want to learn how to make those mistakes safely and
97 00:18:07,859 --> 00:18:18,449 beginning and make lots of them. Because that's where your learning is going to come in the mistake of trying to avoid losing or losing streaks only invites
98 00:18:18,449 --> 00:18:30,809 more of that. It's a weird paradox. The more you try to avoid taking a loss, the more likely you're going to have them. Why? How could that possibly be like
99 00:18:30,809 --> 00:18:45,419 that? Because you're trying to do something psychologically, emotionally stimuli is is forcing you to act impulsively, instead of following the model. How many
100 00:18:45,419 --> 00:18:59,669 silver bullets can form? In that one hour? You're looking for one. So you're looking for, it's not gonna be six of them. Can be a baker's dozen. It's one.
101 00:19:00,329 --> 00:19:10,769 And if you missed it, or you did it wrong, don't go back in, let it go. It's gonna be real, real hard for the men to do that. But the ladies in my fault,
102 00:19:10,829 --> 00:19:18,899 they're like, You know what? I'll just take read the rest of it. I'll journal it. I'm not going to beat myself up about it. And it's just more experience
103 00:19:19,019 --> 00:19:31,349 next. No, no, they're not the guys. You just imagine John Wick, okay. They just lost they just got stopped out there trade. That's it. Where's my sledgehammer.
104 00:19:31,739 --> 00:19:41,699 I'm going down in the basement. I'm busting my bases. floor up and pulling out another weapon. I'm going to war. I've done it. Trust me. I've done all that
105 00:19:41,699 --> 00:19:55,739 stuff. And every time I did that the account got blown. You turn one small, little insignificant loss into a comeback story. That becomes a tragedy. And you
106 00:19:55,739 --> 00:19:56,579 do it to yourself.
107 00:19:56,940 --> 00:20:08,010 It's very easy to unplug. If you have the data the resources of collecting these back tested results, studying a model, sticking to the rules. You're not
108 00:20:08,010 --> 00:20:15,540 supposed to be going in there taking multiple entries between 10 o'clock and nine o'clock, you're not supposed to be doing that. That's not the model. If you
109 00:20:15,540 --> 00:20:28,680 missed it, don't chase it. Let it go, the ladies in my fold, they can do that easily. The men know it's an invitation to a street fight. They're wanting to
110 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:37,890 bring a knife to a gun by a gunfight. That's exactly what they do. And I love them for their tenacity and their willful commitment as the owner and just do
111 00:20:37,890 --> 00:20:51,270 battle. But you have to pick and choose your battles, man. You can't go in there expecting your weapon to do what's usually formidable and capable of doing what
112 00:20:51,270 --> 00:21:00,600 it's necessary and a silver bullet or whatever model that you're trying to work with. If you've missed that opportunity, the probabilities of you being
113 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:12,150 successful with that moment have shifted to less likely not impossible, but less likely. So why would you want to push at that moment where you're now highly
114 00:21:12,150 --> 00:21:25,350 sensitive to the fact that you have taken a paper cut? And that's exactly what it should be not 10% of your account? Not? Well, you know, I lost the max loss
115 00:21:25,380 --> 00:21:39,030 on my funded account challenge today. Why? Why? Why opening yourself up to that measure of risk, because you want to get through that funded account challenge
116 00:21:39,030 --> 00:21:45,330 fast. Because you think that something magical is gonna happen, you're not going to have losing trades, when you get to the funded account, you're going to be
117 00:21:45,330 --> 00:21:51,990 scared to death. If that's how you feel when you're in a funded account challenge portion of it, when you get to the funding level, you're gonna be
118 00:21:51,990 --> 00:22:00,570 scared, you won't want to take a trade. And you're gonna wait and watch price start moving outside of the entry time when you should have taken it, then
119 00:22:00,570 --> 00:22:10,470 you're gonna exit way too soon, too. So you're gonna chase price where it's not in a very low problem, I'm sorry, low risk, high probability entry. Silver
120 00:22:10,470 --> 00:22:17,010 Bullet, you're going to wait for what you think is confirmation, the price is going to move. And you're thinking okay, yes, right. It's definitely going now,
121 00:22:17,010 --> 00:22:24,870 it's unmoved eight handles in s&p. And I could probably eke out for more because it's about ready to go to that buy side. So yeah, I'm giving up eight, I'm gonna
122 00:22:24,870 --> 00:22:33,390 make four. So you know, it's not real money. Anyway, it's a funded account challenge. If that's how you're thinking, and folks, you need to be real honest
123 00:22:33,390 --> 00:22:42,870 with yourself. If that's what you're doing right now, you're not prepared to be trading with a funded account or live money at all. And I know that doesn't feel
124 00:22:42,870 --> 00:22:53,640 good to hear that. But that's exactly the medicine you need to take right here right now. If you're ignoring, if you're ignoring the fact that you're not
125 00:22:53,640 --> 00:23:02,970 prepared, see my female students, they bring those observations about themselves. To me with those very things point out, this is what I'm feeling.
126 00:23:03,090 --> 00:23:11,760 This is what I'm thinking about the time when I take a loss, this is what I'm considering. Is this right? If it's not right, telling me I should be doing. The
127 00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:31,170 men want to complain to me, that it's hard. What's different there? They went out to battle. And they got their ass kicked in, they want to be coddled. The
128 00:23:31,170 --> 00:23:40,590 women understand that they're not going to win every time. But they gotta make preparations, things still gotta get done. Even if they take a loss, they still
129 00:23:40,590 --> 00:23:48,630 have to keep their account. Men think well, you know, I can respond. It's only this much money to restart the account, my son did the same thing. That was the
130 00:23:48,630 --> 00:24:00,210 mentality that was his words. It doesn't cost that much to reset it. So I'm just gonna try to do it really fast. When that's not doing anything, but fostering
131 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:14,280 poor habits. You're inviting difficulty in your trading when you think like that. And what do you think's going to happen over time, trading like that? Ill
132 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:20,790 equipped you haven't done tying back testing. You haven't collected data to support the idea that the model you're trading with or trying to trade with? If
133 00:24:20,790 --> 00:24:29,520 you're even following? What's the sense even going through learning a model if you're not going to adhere to it? What's it What's this? What's the whole
134 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:40,680 purpose of even studying certain things, whether it be by me or someone else if you're not really going to follow the model? I have lots of students mail that
135 00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:48,270 say I follow this and I say, Hey, show me your trades. They're real uncomfortable with that, because when they show me their trades, they're
136 00:24:48,270 --> 00:25:01,230 entering way outside the boundaries of where the trade should be taken. What's going on there? They're not following the model or the They're not good enough
137 00:25:01,230 --> 00:25:11,100 to identify because they haven't spent enough time studying old moves, and getting bored with that. Then tape reading and seeing repeat every think about
138 00:25:11,100 --> 00:25:21,720 why I gave you that model. Why don't give you that model. It's a high frequency trading model that repeats every single day, three sessions per day. I already
139 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:30,090 know what you're looking for. You want to have experience quickly. You don't wanna be waiting on a daily chart setup. You want to learn what it is, you're
140 00:25:30,090 --> 00:25:37,860 supposed to know, you want to get out there, do what you have to do, and start making money. I get it, folks, I understand. But there are certain things that
141 00:25:37,860 --> 00:25:46,980 you cannot speed through. You can't just rush through it and think that oh, you know, I'll I'm going to be the exception. You know, I'm really good at this. You
142 00:25:46,980 --> 00:26:01,080 don't understand ICT, you know, I was made for this, I was built for this. When you include money in that you have now changed the whole dynamic. It's not
143 00:26:01,890 --> 00:26:12,450 enough to be right or wrong anymore. Now you have to be right. And if you're wrong, not lose more than it's reasonable. So if you're not going to follow
144 00:26:12,450 --> 00:26:25,890 model, if not going to train yourself to see what it is that should be followed and allow the data to support the idea that the model sound you're not going to
145 00:26:25,890 --> 00:26:33,750 have the mentality to follow it. Because you're not going to trust you haven't seen it enough. You're familiar with Oh, yeah, that's a fair bag. Yep, it's
146 00:26:33,750 --> 00:26:45,630 easy. They've been around since 1900s. These are people that can't follow a model. You don't want to be that. You want to be someone that says you know
147 00:26:45,630 --> 00:26:52,620 what, I'm treating this like a business. Okay, I don't have time, things are things are changing, I want to be ahead of all this stuff, I want to start
148 00:26:52,620 --> 00:26:59,370 making money consistently. And I want to be able to weather losing streaks and know that it doesn't mean that the model is broken, it doesn't mean that the
149 00:26:59,370 --> 00:27:10,170 algorithm has been canceled and done away with the markets have now shifted into some kind of unknown randomness. You're going to trust that you did it wrong.
150 00:27:10,380 --> 00:27:17,550 Okay, there's nothing to beat yourself up about, there's another opportunity coming around a couple more hours, just sit around, wait for it. Don't rush to
151 00:27:17,550 --> 00:27:29,400 get in and get it back. Don't fear losing because the fact that you trying to prevent a loss, you are going to do things to actually invite it. And that will
152 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:37,650 be a repeating losers cycle that you will go through and won't identify it. You'll swear up and down your file in the model, you're swear up and down, that
153 00:27:37,650 --> 00:27:54,690 the broker did it to you. That so and so did it to me again, them guys did it to us guys. When you just didn't do it, right. That's all. And mental health is
154 00:27:54,690 --> 00:28:05,910 managing. I understand bipolar. And this is going to be something of a rich topic to touch on. But I think I'm equipped to do so I wrestle with a lot of
155 00:28:05,910 --> 00:28:17,610 that kind of stuff. And it's very hard for me to focus. I have to imagine my son being in front of me when I'm talking like this, because when I allow myself to
156 00:28:17,610 --> 00:28:29,640 think about how many people are actually listening messes me up. Doesn't sound like that does it. But that's the truth. Your mental health as a trader needs to
157 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:39,120 be guarded, you got to keep all the bullshit out. No negative. Don't give these jokers on the internet time to give you any kind of second guessing or doubting
158 00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:49,290 what it is that you're doing. Or inspire you to want to go out there and bring them evidence. Fuck these people, they they're broke. They want to see if they
159 00:28:49,290 --> 00:29:02,460 get a rise out of you. If they can, they own you for that moment. They own you who's in control yourself at that moment? They are. So you want to be guarding
160 00:29:02,460 --> 00:29:14,100 your mental health. And the way you keep yourself on the right road in progress is by following the model that you've back tested. That you have seen sometimes
161 00:29:14,100 --> 00:29:28,020 it doesn't work well in your hands and that's okay. You had a car accident. You were hit a manhole your head curved with your tires. What happened? Something
162 00:29:28,020 --> 00:29:38,100 cost money right? Did you start wanting to drive a car because you did that? Know that same thing that you need to treat your trading with? You need to look
163 00:29:38,100 --> 00:29:44,340 at your losses. If you cannot make I make sure I say this correctly because
164 00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:56,370 the focus is your you're starting to learn how to do this. So you don't really have a baseline yet. You need to determine what you can realistically make. Well
165 00:29:56,370 --> 00:30:04,920 I've given you a target which is five handles. It's very low hanging for It's very easy to get to it immediately for someone new, it doesn't feel so easy,
166 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:16,230 does it? But over time you'll get there. It's easy. And you know, grow exponentially beyond that. But if you're trading, one micro, not many micro,
167 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:32,790 what are you really risking? If you risk five handles to make 525 bucks? Man, I don't got time for the 25 bucks thing ICT? Well, then I can't help you. Because
168 00:30:32,790 --> 00:30:44,910 what you're saying is, is you don't want to condition your your mind the follower model. Because if you can do that very, very well. What do you think's
169 00:30:44,910 --> 00:31:03,810 happening when you apply it to one minute, and then eventually, five minutes 1015 You're not equipped to appreciate the level of focus that's required for
170 00:31:03,810 --> 00:31:15,600 you to trust the model, not looking at the money. The ladies in my fold, they do it right, they go from the lowest potential risk, the leverage that you can use
171 00:31:15,690 --> 00:31:23,280 the least of, they work with that until it becomes so easy for them to stick to the model. They don't care about the money. Because they're following the model.
172 00:31:24,900 --> 00:31:36,780 They use the aspects of money management and proper risk management, that means my better traders only risk half of what they know they can make every single
173 00:31:36,780 --> 00:31:52,530 day easily. Let's assume for a moment that it's very easy for them to go out and get 10 handles in the s&p on one minute. That's 500 hours. Never let your loss
174 00:31:52,530 --> 00:32:02,190 be more than 250 bucks. Because it's easy for you to recoup that. If you're going to trade another session, you're gonna be able to do it with half the
175 00:32:02,190 --> 00:32:10,770 leverage. You don't think about like that, do you think about well, I took a loss. Let me just double up because it's only got to move this a little bit now.
176 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:20,730 I can get it back and get even more I might get lucky in it. Right. Ron? Are you sticking to your mountain? Nope, you're trading impulsively. You're gambling,
177 00:32:20,730 --> 00:32:29,490 you're doing a scratch off. That's a scratch off trader mentality. I'm gonna spend a buck I might win 500 bucks. Yeah, well, you could have wasted $1 and the
178 00:32:29,490 --> 00:32:32,370 gas money to go there in the time you've been doing all that nonsense.
179 00:32:38,190 --> 00:32:50,640 Your mental health is rewarded. By filing a model that you've investigated, you tested back tested, collected data on your management of losing trades, improves
180 00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:56,940 over time, because you know that losing trades are going to happen and you can't avoid every single one of them, it's not going to happen, there is no way to
181 00:32:56,940 --> 00:33:08,940 possibly avoid every single one of them. And when you have a model, and you have a loss, you reflect on the market internals at the time that you took that loss
182 00:33:08,940 --> 00:33:19,920 and this, if everything is still there, and a trade still viable, okay, so when looking for leverage, or don't do anything at all. But don't plow near the same
183 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:29,880 amount of leverage or chase it looking for confirmation. Because you're not following the model. You're trading your p&l and trading your p&l is a loser's
184 00:33:29,910 --> 00:33:44,250 game. You're trading the ebb and flow of your equity curve. Losers do that. Every person on that leaderboard that ever makes it that way on Robins got
185 00:33:44,250 --> 00:33:52,110 that's what they do. They trade their p&l equity curve. And that's why they go up and down the up and down and he fall off, you never see him again. It's a
186 00:33:52,110 --> 00:34:02,400 wonderful psychological study of watching that every year. And you're doing the same thing many times in your funded account challenges, or when you get your
187 00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:11,310 funded account, then you just can't wait to get a big win. And use the maximum leverage because hey, you know, I got through that funding account challenge
188 00:34:11,340 --> 00:34:23,370 pretty easy. Then it means time at all. overleveraged. I understand, but it's cheap. If I would have failed, I could have just paid for it a reset. You have
189 00:34:23,370 --> 00:34:39,630 to treat that account. Like it was your money. All of it, not just the reset all of it. Are you doing that? I would humbly submit that probably less than 5% of
190 00:34:39,630 --> 00:34:54,480 you do it like that. And that's what you're doing. That makes you ill equipped to be successful. You're not being responsible with the risk. You're not being
191 00:34:54,480 --> 00:35:06,420 responsible with the money management aspects. The female trader system mifold she didn't like that. males don't, Sledgehammer swing, busted up, take it home,
192 00:35:06,780 --> 00:35:19,290 big payout, a man language. The ladies in my fold, I want to be scientific about this. I want to measure the risks, I want to stay within a risk parameter that I
193 00:35:19,290 --> 00:35:30,930 know I'm comfortable with. And if I take a loss, it's okay, I have a model I'm going to trust tomorrow or the next session, nothing changes. The men would do
194 00:35:30,930 --> 00:35:46,080 well to learn from successful women traders. But little Duke Energy prevents that woman at that moment is making more money than you are and more consistent
195 00:35:46,080 --> 00:36:06,000 and trading. Why wouldn't you? You'd be a fool not to. Society says that no, women are beneath men. Now. They're there under the arm, in the companionship of
196 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:20,400 a male. Together, they're strong, real strong. That's what they're designed to be that way, a partnership. You lean on each other strengths, the woman usually
197 00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:32,640 relies on the capability of the male to defend the home and the family. That's their strength. Usually, the female is good at keeping the home in keeping
198 00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:47,250 things organized. So that way, the male doesn't have to worry about that. Men are generally really good risk takers, if not a strength. That means they can
199 00:36:47,490 --> 00:37:07,860 over leverage and feel no fear about it. Look at extramarital affairs, as a testimony feel it. And the women there historically better risk managers. As a
200 00:37:07,860 --> 00:37:19,830 community, I would love for you all. And I see it today. But the ones that are in the offing outside saying the women this and the women that guys are always
201 00:37:19,830 --> 00:37:33,330 better than men, women in trading. Now they're not. And I have data to support that. A lot of students, I can tell you, the best ones are the females. And I'm
202 00:37:33,330 --> 00:37:50,040 proud to say that because I have science behind me when I was going into this teaching, then you the I expected the females to stand apart. And you can say,
203 00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:58,680 Well, look, you know, the people that win competitions are usually men, and that saying that they're not willing to take exorbitant risks. And they may get
204 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:09,540 lucky, it may pan out for them. That's not equivalent to skill. What did you just say? You heard the fuck I just said, you heard it. That's equivalent to
205 00:38:09,540 --> 00:38:18,150 that guy going out on the weekend. And having an affair and getting away with it. Does that make him a good husband makes him a piece of shit, they got away
206 00:38:18,150 --> 00:38:30,090 with it. But you keep stealing, eventually it's going to come home to roost. And mama ain't going to be real happy about that. You're going to come home with
207 00:38:30,090 --> 00:38:47,760 something and leave without it. And stuff wasn't going to help that. So I've listened to all of you today. And again, it's just it's really nice to hear the
208 00:38:47,760 --> 00:39:02,190 back and forth interactions, everybody and how you deal with certain things and how you've come up. And maybe I don't have a voice in the conversation that was
209 00:39:02,670 --> 00:39:13,650 had today maybe I don't have an opinion. It really holds much weight here in some of your eyes and think that were you to talk like this. I've seen the lives
210 00:39:13,650 --> 00:39:28,800 of many people change for the good and the bad when he got involved in trading. And the results are going to be determined by the amount of organization
211 00:39:30,690 --> 00:39:45,660 adherence to impeccable risk management. See, the males they want to be that sniper. They want to be extremely precise because that is equivalent to having
212 00:39:49,710 --> 00:40:05,010 some sighs in a man's mind they think like that. If I can get in with the least amount of drawdown My entry and get the highest exit strategy implemented from
213 00:40:05,010 --> 00:40:17,970 getting the maximum amount of the move, then I'm Alfa women and thinking about that woman saying, Hey, I'm going to trust my mom to pay me. And I'm gonna do
214 00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:30,270 all the heavy lifting through money management, I got to do is have a cookie cutter. And if I finally sound money management, that same little trade, IRS,
215 00:40:30,270 --> 00:40:46,440 we're pulling in five handles risking five handles, one for one, I can turn that into whatever I want it to be. Think about it. My grandma had one cookie cutter,
216 00:40:47,400 --> 00:41:00,690 a snowman. As long as he had dough, there's no limit to how many cookies as long as that dough was remained when she ran the dough, that's it, get no running.
217 00:41:02,730 --> 00:41:15,570 Your model is that cookie cutter, you have to keep this dough in the account, you do that? Multiply, you'll have more than just one cut, or that snowman for a
218 00:41:15,570 --> 00:41:27,090 cookie. They'll repeat. And it'll be exponential in its delivery in the results, but it will not happen because of luck, on a consistent basis is not going to
219 00:41:27,090 --> 00:41:37,080 come to you by way of shortcutting the growing pains that you're trying to avoid. It's about you embracing it and saying yeah, I'm willing to submit to
220 00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:44,760 this because I know it's worthwhile. And if I have a losing trade, if I have a series of losing trades, I'm not going to lose sight of what it is I'm trying to
221 00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:54,630 do. That means there's opportunity for me to improve upon, what did I do wrong there. And I'm not gonna beat myself up for that. I'm going to go into the data
222 00:41:54,630 --> 00:42:07,230 and say, Okay, this is what I should have done. And now I'm going to learn from that, not beat yourself up about it. And over time, in closing, you will have
223 00:42:07,230 --> 00:42:21,150 learned the trust the model that you can use and implement at your disposal, you can go in any any given day trading, and not have any fear of the results. But
224 00:42:21,150 --> 00:42:31,860 expecting what you have proven to yourself already. That it works that it does pay out if you follow the model, but if you do anything outside the model, the
225 00:42:31,860 --> 00:42:38,610 results are garbage. That's the mindset you should have your mental health needs to be focused on.
226 00:42:39,060 --> 00:42:47,370 Am I training the model? Am I following the rules? Am I keeping risk at bay, because in the beginning, that's what it's all about. It's not about making a
227 00:42:47,370 --> 00:43:01,020 lot of money. It's about being able to be profitable, and lose very little. And being comfortable like that. And over time, your losses become more infrequent.
228 00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:13,800 More more upside in terms of profitability is available to you because you've done everything that's correct. And you got to your mental health, by not
229 00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:23,100 allowing anybody to talk you out of what it is you're doing. Because life in itself will will. The stars will align. And you'll have a day we had a losing
230 00:43:23,100 --> 00:43:30,750 trade. And at the time, it wasn't that much of a loss. But then you're going to invite the opportunity for someone that doesn't give a shit about you to give
231 00:43:30,750 --> 00:43:39,780 you their two cents, their opinion about what you did. And they don't have a trade, they can't make money. They have no idea. They're gonna tell you sure you
232 00:43:39,780 --> 00:43:48,420 want to be doing that. Now, what did you just do you invited something that you're going to him and haul over thinking and worrying about? Am I really
233 00:43:48,450 --> 00:43:54,660 equipped for this? What did I really do today? It's really sucks. This person knows this about me. I wish I never would have said it. What are you doing?
234 00:43:54,660 --> 00:44:05,070 You're spending mental capital? Is that good for your mental health or No? No. Profitable traders don't give a fuck what other people think about what they're
235 00:44:05,070 --> 00:44:14,910 doing. They don't care. They're not inviting other people into a conversation about their finances. They're not inviting them to tell them how to trade or
236 00:44:14,910 --> 00:44:23,910 model better, or what they should be doing differently. That's someone that doesn't know what the fuck they're doing. Would you feel confident going into
237 00:44:23,910 --> 00:44:33,300 the see your surgeon and owning the surgery day? And they turn over and say, Hey, listen. Do you think I should do it this way to a person that's not dressed
238 00:44:33,300 --> 00:44:44,070 like a doctor? That wouldn't inspire confidence with no one. But that's what you're doing. You're the surgeon in this and you're taking the investment advice
239 00:44:44,460 --> 00:44:54,510 from Carl, the temp he doesn't even have a full time position yet at your job. He's just working in a cubicle doing bullshit work, and you're letting him tell
240 00:44:54,510 --> 00:45:03,810 you what you should be doing or having the influence that he gives on your outcome. Have a trade. That's the equivalent. That's exactly what it is. It's
241 00:45:03,810 --> 00:45:16,260 silly, I know. But that's exactly what you're doing. And I love the fact that this community guards everyone's mindset and keeps everybody on the on the right
242 00:45:16,260 --> 00:45:26,460 path. That's exactly how you use social media, you have to have a mind. Like, you have to have a hive mentality. And people want to call it a cult, fuck them,
243 00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:35,490 they're broke. They're going to be in the same position or worse, two years from now you want it, you're gonna be somewhere better. Because what you're doing is
244 00:45:35,490 --> 00:45:46,680 you're keeping yourself around other people that are positive. You're not hanging around toxic people. It's draining. You're upbeat about it. You feel
245 00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:54,660 good. And you're doing it on a fucking day that you can't even trade. I guess you can move on. But right now you're all hanging out on the weekend, when
246 00:45:54,660 --> 00:46:04,770 everybody else is out there trying to get drunk. Eating fucking potato chips, pork rinds, getting fat, not exercising and doing everything else about life
247 00:46:04,770 --> 00:46:16,470 that isn't correct for living a very successful healthy lifestyle. What are you doing? You're hanging around people that want to be winners. You're hanging
248 00:46:16,470 --> 00:46:25,320 around people that are aspiring to do the same thing you're doing. That's the right way to do it. Because if you hang around shit, you're gonna start smelling
249 00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:42,900 like it. Who's Who in your friends circle are negative. Who in your family do you avoid at all functions that's what this community keeps out. And that's
250 00:46:42,900 --> 00:47:05,310 fucking awesome. It's not weakness. But strength. When bullshit comes in bullshit gets booted there's a honey bee. They're pretty, pretty good together,
251 00:47:05,340 --> 00:47:15,420 they work real well, we collect honey and produce honey rather, gathering all the nectar and such but there's a wasp that comes in and can really do a lot of
252 00:47:15,420 --> 00:47:26,550 damage to them. Cut them all up real quick. But these honey bees, when they get an intruder like that, and it comes into the hive, they all mounts around it.
253 00:47:26,910 --> 00:47:38,940 And they call it a murder ball. And while they can't physically pierce that larger be and do any kind of damage with it. The fact that they group around it,
254 00:47:39,660 --> 00:47:49,440 they swarm it and they shake themselves violently in a raise the temperature of any basically microwave and cook it. That's what this community does. When an
255 00:47:49,440 --> 00:48:01,470 asshole comes in here, they produce a murder ball around it. And they can't stay. They die. You have to guard your mental health. You can't let assholes in.
256 00:48:02,370 --> 00:48:15,270 You can't let shit come in. You put shit in your good shit out. You're trying to learn how to do the most difficult thing in the world against the most smartest
257 00:48:15,270 --> 00:48:25,740 individuals and shrewdest corrupted motherfuckers have ever walked in the planet, and you're doing it in their backyard. You think you're gonna have some
258 00:48:25,740 --> 00:48:32,640 adversities? Yeah, of course, you're gonna have adversities. But there's advantages that you have to learn to wait for and take them when they're there
259 00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:51,300 and avoid it when the probabilities are low. Pick your shots gave me so anyway, I've taken enough of your time. I've enjoyed everyone's input today and I look
260 00:48:51,300 --> 00:48:52,530 forward to the next one you guys do